A new relationship can be as nerve wracking as it can be exciting. The excitement of starting something new with someone that you like definitely surpasses the nervousness that you might feel - but nonetheless, the ambiguity and hesitations that come with entering new territory can cause anxiety at times. You want to be with someone who will come to love and appreciate you for all that you are - but how much of you is it okay to reveal right at the beginning? Questions such as this often make their way into the minds of new couples, and it is more than natural. No matter how slow you might want to take things, though, it is essential to talk about certain things and address some important issues at the very start. While feeling slightly shy or inhibited in the first few months of your relationship is normal, certain issues demand complete honesty and openness.
Here are a few honest conversations you should have with your partner right at the beginning.
1. Your views on marriage
Whether the person you've started dating is all ready to get married or far from it, you need to be honest about what you want. There's no point nodding in agreement just in order to avoid hurting their feelings or freaking them out - not when it comes to something as important and life impacting as marriage. Highly differing views on such a thing could often be a dealbreaker, but the sooner you have this conversation and know where you stand, the better it will be for both of you.
2. Your dynamic with your family and theirs
It's important to let the person you're now likely to spend a lot of your time with about your relationship with your family. Are you close? How important is it for them to like him/her and vice a versa? Would you like him/her to meet them? Would he/she like you to meet their family? These questions are important when trying to decipher what kind of a relationship you could share with the people that could potentially be your family one day.
3. The 'Money' talk
Again, don't shy away from coming out and addressing the issue of how, the two of you as a couple, would like to divide your spending. How much money are you comfortable spending as a couple on a monthly basis? What is their current spending pattern and yours? Knowing this about each other will help you decipher what the two of you can and cannot do together and help you avoid uncomfortable conversations later.
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