It is Saturday night and you are watching a movie with your friend at home with your best friend. You guys are cuddled up and the scene is very relaxed and warm. Somehow, one thing leads to other and the next thing you know is that you both are naked and kissing passionately. Blurred lines are never good, he says. You still don't stop. But you know he has a point. Blurred lines in friendship can lead to a lot of things and thus, should be treated with utmost regard and care.
Sleeping with your friend may seem like a great idea, what with the comfort and the ease, the latent attraction and the love you share anyway. But no matter what the pull, should you be doing it? Because a few things can go wrong there. Here are some that you should consider.
You risk losing the friendship
The most obvious of all: your friendship post sleeping together will not be the same. Even if either of you manage to not fall for the other or double think your feelings, you are now in the grey area of friends-with-benefits. Either way, chances are that one of you will end up hurt.
You might develop feelings for them
...and they might not reciprocate. Yikes. So not only did you just lose a friend but you also got your heart broken. You might start feeling things like jealousy, possessiveness, etc. And we all know how that ends. Even if you manage to not be weird about the sleeping together, these can of feelings will certainly ruin it.
You will be the person who slept with a friend
There will always be people who will understand; and there will be some who won't. Not that it matters but not only will you approach your friends cautiously, they might too. Especially if you both hang with the same set of people, other friends may take sides. And it is a downward graph thereon.
So if the thought does cross your mind, you might want to rethink.
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