Flirting is a game. A fun, exciting and fulfilling game that leaves you with a high of sorts. Well, if you are flirting right that is. Go about it in a messy fashion and you will probably end up feeling inadequate and low. But you see, the point of flirtation isn't to score always, sometimes it is just net practice for the bigger match. Honing your flirting skills is never a bad idea of course, but it is essential to not go flirting around with EVERYONE in sight.
One of the first things to remember is that flirting is just another conversation you are having with someone, only with a witty, romantic twist to it. Loads of people hey nervous about flirting because they are so aware of what they are going about. Treat flirting as a regular conversation and you will do so much better. Also, confidence is key.
Apart from that, here are some other rules you ought to remember when you go flirting.
Don't come on too strong
The first thing to NOT do is scare the person right off the bat. A casual "Hi, how's it going?" works wonders. And how the person responds is your cue to how keen they are. You can start with casual, really casual conversation and get to know the person. Take it from there; if the interest is building up, bring in the funny, witty comments and your game.
No means no
Pretty simple, eh? But somehow a lot of people miss this point. If a person is not interested, get the hint and back off. Don't keep trying your luck, there is nothing more unattractive than that. Trust me.
Don't go overboard
If you hit it off with the person, know where to draw the line and how far you can go. In the digital age, sexting, sending messages that are too forward and getting straight to business might be a lot of people's thing but not everyone and definitely not right at the beginning. So be careful how far you take your "flirting" to.
Gauging how anyone responds to flirting is obviously an unspoken rule of flirting. This is what decides how you are faring, and where the night will lead you. Play well.
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