Breakups are always hard on the person who is being broken up with, which is why it is essential that the person who is breaking up, breaks up with due decency. There are certain courtesies that one should bestow on the person who is being broken up with. If out of nothing then just sheer respect for another human being. There are some things that are just not acceptable and shouldn’t be done, even if it to assuage one’s feelings of guilt and pain.
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Create unnecessary drama
Don’t create fights where they don’t exist, and definitely don’t get into a screaming match with the other person. Tears, drama and unnecessary finger pointing, blame games - all of that makes the situation worse.
Don’t try to make yourself out to be the victim
Reverse psychology is great - gaslighting is so toxic because most of the times it works, and you come out as the victim rather than the abuser. Breaking up with someone is fine when you have legitimate reasons, but don’t go making them sound like some kind of an insane person who wrecked you when they didn’t and all you want to do is make yourself feel better. Don’t blame them for YOUR actions either.
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Don’t try to slowly slide it in
Don’t make it a process where you give hints and signs and blow hot and cold and hope that they get the hint that you aren’t interested in them anymore. It is a cowardly thing to do, not to mention frustrating for the other person. Instead, go up to them and clear the air. You have better chances of keeping it clean that way.