Every relationship has its own language and sets of dos and don'ts. There's really no saying what is right and wrong in a relationship (apart from the obvious cheating and abuse, yes). But there are some things that people often do that sets the direction for the relationship to veer into a negative one. These things are basic and simple too, but most often, people don't even realise that these things that they're doing, consciously or subconsciously, are what cause a strain in their relationship. So be mindful of these things, and remember, for your relationship to be a healthy one, these are things you should really avoid doing.
Here are a few things you should never do in a healthy relationship.
1. Always do every single thing with your partner
Yes, it's absolutely great to find someone that you can do anything and everything with. Finding someone you can travel with, watch movies with, or do something as mundane as eat the same breakfast everyday with, is great. But it's important also to take some space every now and then and go out into the world to have your own individual experiences. Come back with stories to share with each other and new things to talk about. Continuously being in each other's company can often lead to a relationship stagnating and seeming less exciting after a while.
2. Compare your relationship to another one
It doesn't just mean that you're comparing your relationship to someone else's, it could also just mean that you're comparing it to a previous one of your own. That, is a slippery slope to go down. Comparing your partner, your life or your relationship to anyone else's or to your own past is an extremely unhealthy practice that will seldom leave you feeling content and happy. Negative thoughts may arise, but remember, it is in your control to think what you do. It might seem like something that you have no control over, but constantly reminding yourself of all the good things in life will help. No two people can be the same and neither can any two relationships. If there are things that you miss from the past, try and incorporate them into your current relationship in a way that is suited to you and your partner now. A constant comparison, though, will get you nowhere.
3. Stop putting in effort
Sounds like a pretty basic ground rule for any relationship, but you'll be surprised at how many of us forget just this. After a while of being in a relationship many of us begin to take our partners' existence for granted. He/She is there anyway, right? Wrong. You can't hold someone captive with the charm and love you threw their way when you first met, forever. Putting effort into to the way you look for your partner, talk to your partner or even just have sex with your partner shouldn't become a concept that fades away as the initial few months end. There's no harm in getting comfortable, but don't let that comfort translate into complacency.
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