Fights are an inevitable part of relationships. Yes, we said it - and most couples, successful couples, know it to be true. No matter how great your relationship might be and how much you and your partner get along, there are bound to be issues that you just do not see eye to eye on. You are, after all, two individuals with your own set of ideas and beliefs. So yes, fights every now and then are unavoidable. What is avoidable, though, is hurting each other beyond measure during a fight. We all say things in anger that we just do not mean, but there are certain things that leave it's bitter aftertaste long after the fight is over. Be mindful of what you say in anger, it could damage your relationship, even though that might not be your intention.
Here are a few things you should never say to your partner during a fight.
1. "Whatever, it doesn't matter"
Trying to escape an argument might seem like a great solution at that moment, but if you're dismissing something by saying "it doesn't matter", be ready to deal with the consequences too. If it didn't matter, it wouldn't have stirred up a fight in a the first place, both you and your partner know that. But by simply shrugging it under the rug this time, you're allowing for the issue to become an even bigger issue in the future. If something has bothered you or your partner, resolve it. Escaping an argument might seem tempting, but in the long run, it'll only cause more damage.
2. "That is ridiculous"
These three little words send one clear message to your partner; that what they're thinking or feeling just isn't valid in your eyes. If this is always your go-to phrase, your partner will think ten times before bringing anything up with you and vice a versa. You're creating a space where neither of you will feel safe expressing your feelings in fear of sounding 'ridiculous'.
3. "Why are we even in this relationship?"
Questioning the entire relationship because you have one disagreement is far from what you should be doing. If you find yourself wanting to quit the relationship or walk out on your partner simply because of a fight, think about whether that is something you actually want based on other underlying issues. But hinting at a breakup at the drop of a hat can chip away the trust the two of you have worked hard to build. Threatening to abandon the person you love does nothing but create a toxic environment.
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