Telling someone you aren't keen on them romantically, when they are. can be a bit tricky. Chances are they are going to be left with a bruised ego and possibly a heartbreak; and for you it is an awkward spot to be in. You want to let off the other person easy but also stick to your guns. Your friends would tell you that there is just no good way to do this. But turns out there are ways you can go about it without making the other person feel like they are being hit by a bus. It is always a better idea to be considerate of the other person's feelings if you can't reciprocate them.
Here are a few things you can do.
No matter what, don't lie
Sometimes people lie to take the easier route. You tell someone you aren't ready to date just yet, unknowingly giving them the hope that they might have a shot later. That just keeps the window for their admiration open. Instead, be clear and tell the person truthfully that you are just not into them. That helps them move on and keeps the slate clean for you.
Don't cut them off
Ghosting is a cowardly thing to do - cutting people off because you are too scared to have a honest conversation not only looks horrible on your part but also leaves the other person feeling insecure, frustrated and confused. If you aren't ready for a conversation, text them and let them know that you aren't interested in them instead of cutting them off cold turkey. Or tell them you need some time to figure out how to say what you want to.
Don't let it build up
If you are still responding to them in a way that looks like you are interested in them, stop. Stop flirting with them thinking it is meaningless, stop pretending everything is normal when you are made aware of their feelings. The moment you get the hint, take them aside and clear the air. The more you wait, the worse it gets and the harder it will be for both of you later.
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