Are you in a relationship with a person who seems just a little too much into themselves? Do they take longer than usual to decide on an outfit for a night out with friends or never cease to stop talking about the compliments they received at last night's party? These are the people we most often label as a narcissist. Such individuals navigate the world of relationships under the assumption that they are one-of-a-kind and at the center of the universe. They feel entitled to constant praise and validation and seek out admiration from others. At times, such people also lack complete empathy and will manipulate and abuse others for self-serving purposes and to further reinforce their ego.
Reasoning or arguing with them is useless, as they are least interested in having a conversation or discussion. In other words, they tend to be who they are, and despite your best efforts, you will not be able to change them or make them think or act differently. The problem is figuring out if you're genuinely dating a narcissist.
4 Traits Of A Narcissist To Watch Out For
It pays to really know who a narcissist is and how you can avoid dating one. Here are the telltale signs and a few red flags in a relationship that you need to look out for.
Such people are most often good at deception. They may present as genuinely kind and pleasant with others and in public but act immaturely or rudely toward their partner behind closed doors. And the worst part is, they will justify this behavior and act as if everything is “okay” or “absolutely normal.” And when you try to remind them of their insolent behaviors, they will either deny the accusation or blame it on you. They will purposefully try to make you go nuts and in the process, you may start questioning your own judgment.
2. Overly Charming
Narcissists are incredibly charming and have the innate ability to adapt to any situation and zone in on what makes their partner tick in the initial days of dating. They are great at flattery and seducing and like to win the game all the time. They may come across as alluring and attractive, especially during the initial stages of a relationship, when they're trying to woo their potential date. And after they have conquered their partner, they seem to lose interest.
3. Lack Of Empathy
Narcissist people have little or no ability to feel empathy- they are terrible at understanding their partner's pain or hurt. At times, there may be no genuine affection or love. They fail to gauge how their words, comments, deeds, or actions impact their close ones. In fact, they are too self-focused to be able to recognize and consider their partner's feelings and sentiments.
4. Need Constant Attention And Validation
Narcissists never seem to be tired of hearing how great they are and need constant attention and praise. They speak about themselves in highly inflated terms and love to boast most of the time. They love to brag about who they know, where they've been, and what they've accomplished. They feel they are entitled to some sort of exceptional treatment.
You deserve a relationship, which is based on mutual respect, and a partner who will work with you, not against you. If any of the above traits resonate with you or seem all too familiar, it's time to assess the health of your relationship.