Parenting is challenging enough. And when you're a single mother, there's a lot going on. Does that mean you shouldn't be in the dating field? Absolutely not! Romance is for everyone and being a single mom shouldn't stop you from finding the one to give you butterflies in the stomach again. If you have thought out your way through to get back into dating, these simple, easy tips will make dating life easier for you, and your kids. Here's what you should know and how you can ace it like a super mama and still be on cloud 9!
Easy Dating Tips For Single Mothers
1. Ditch The Guilt
We know society can be tough and take a toll on your decisions. If you are ready to date, remind yourself that in addition to being a mother, you are a regular human being too with a wide variety of wants and needs. Desiring a fulfilling romantic life doesn't make you less of a mother. Of course, your happiness matters than what society thinks.
2. Don't Keep Your Kids In Secrecy
Once you know you have time to date and you can set apart some time for the same, then only go ahead. And while you seek potential dates, don't be the person who keeps their kids secret. Ofcourse, let your dates know who you are but you don't owe an explanation why you are a single parent, remember that!
3. Be Thoughtful While Introducing To Kids
Once you are confident about your new partner, only then introduce him or her to your kids. Ask them if they have any questions. Let them know in advance about an upcoming meeting, listen to their fears, then reassure them as needed. Do not lie behind their backs, you do not want them to fall in a compromising position like the character Devi from 'Never Have I Ever'.
4. Know And Understand The Balance
If you fall in love, don't abandon your kids by spending all of your free time with your newfound love. This will not only make your kids' fears come through but may also distance them from you. With the right strategies, dating can be fun and empowering, just how it's meant to feel.
5. Take It Slow
As a single mom, there is a tremendous amount of pressure to provide for your children financially and emotionally. And you might be out there on the field playing after a very long time. It's important to give your relationship time to develop. Do not rush into decisions. Even if your partner rushes into becoming your official "better half" instead, take it slow and focus on developing the bond with your kids too before you take your relationship to the next level.