Every relationship has its ups and downs, but there are some things that serve as general red flags. When you spot a red flag, you know it's time to have "a talk" with the hope that it garners a positive result. Here are some major red flags in any relationship. Watch out.
You're constantly feeling insecure
Insecurity doesn't necessarily stem from after you've discovered that your partner has been dishonest. It can just be a niggling feeling at the back of your mind, often owing to the fact that your partner's behaviour makes you uncomfortable in some way or another. If you're constantly feeling anxious thanks to what your partner is doing, saying or not doing or saying, speak up and address the issue. Feeling insecure in a relationship, whether due to something that might have happened or the lack thereof, is a major red flag. If you continue to feel it even after efforts made on your part and his, it might be a sign that this relationship is just not the right one for you.
You feel the need to change yourself
If you're feeling the need to be a certain way to be liked or appreciated more by your partner, stop and think. Is changing yourself to please another individual really something you want? There is absolutely nothing wrong with adapting to your partner's needs and wants in order for your relationship to thrive. However, feeling the need to change your demeanor and your mindset completely to please your partner is not a sign of a healthy relationship.
You want to check their texts
It's one thing to know each other's passwords and be comfortable with your partner browsing through your phone on occasion. It shows a great amount of trust and shows that there really is nothing to hide or be secretive about. It's another thing when you feel the need to snoop behind your partner's back in order to check their text messages or who they interact with. The minute that need arises, it is time to reassess your relationship.
There is no real conversation between the two of you
If your conversations draw a blank after you're done telling each other that "your day at work was okay", there's a slight problem. It's normal to have days when the two of you are tired and not in the mood to particularly engage in conversation. But if that's a constant state of being and you only get talking about things that actually matter on rare occasions, perhaps you need to think about whether or not the two of you will be good together in the long run.
Your future plans are far from being on the same page
If you've got a five year plan that includes getting married and having babies and the only plan he has is a five month plan which includes a summer vacation with you in it, you know you're not on the same page. While we often let these things go because of how much fun we might be having in the moment, it eventually causes distress when addressed. If you have an idea that the two of you want different things from life, have a talk to come to a consensus and if that doesn't work, perhaps reconsider the relationship.
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