It takes a lot for a relationship to function. One may think that it is all fun and games from the honeymoon period on but that is hardly the case. Two people need to put in a lot of effort to make a relationship work, especially when we are talking about people with low attention span and low patience (bonus!). Not only is it essential that we tell our partners how they are loved and cared for, there is also a need for us to make them feel secure in the relationship for it to prosper without any hindrance.
I have heard people say that it is no one's responsibility to make their partner feel secure. Most of the times, these are the same people who have acted out of insecurities later in the relationship. Not a nice thing to deal with, insecurities. So keeping that in mind, here's how you can help your partner feel secure in a relationship.
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Communicate the good stuff
Most of the times, we are very verbose with criticism and not with our compliments. That would hamper any relationship, not just a romantic relationship. Let your partner know of all those beautiful, happy, and loving things that you feel about them. These things are always nice to hear and not to wonder.
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Don't play games
Nothing spells destruction for a relationship more than the mind games people play. Mind games are unhealthy, vicious, and very frustrating to deal with. There is absolutely no glory in keeping someone hanging by a thread to make yourself feel the high of being chased. None at all. So stop with the games (and stop waiting two hours before you text back for crying out loud). Taking people for granted is not cool, never will be.
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Talk
Somewhere along the way many of us convinced ourselves that keeping our feelings inside us and dealing with things on our own is the best way to go forward. We do it out of the fear that our partners might think us to be "crazy" or "too intense". That, if anything, is detrimental (especially if you are an overthinker). People in a relationship should be able to talk to each other about their insecurities, how they are feeling and if they are being nagged by a troubling thought so that the partner can help clear any doubts one might have.
Don't be untrustworthy
Trusting someone requires a lot of effort, especially for people who have come from broken relationships. Therefore, it would be wise to keep things as transparent as you can. Shady behaviour, appearing aloof and cold (to appear cool) is not productive to building trust.
Make an effort
Let your partner not be the only one who is making all the efforts to meet, to talk, and to take things forward. You hardly want to come across uninterested. If you are busy, communicate that, along with communicating that you will get back to them shortly. Small things go a long way.
