Getting back together with your ex may not always be the easiest thing - but the truth is, just like somethings are meant to be, some breakups just aren't. In the likelihood that you do get back together with your ex partner, here are some dos and don't that might prevent you from going down the break-up path again.
Do take it slow
Rushing right back into your old routine as a couple can prevent new and improved behavioural patterns from becoming a part of your relationship. Take your time in trying to build a stronger foundation this time round. Try spending time with one another as individuals and enjoying each other's company rather than immediately expecting one another to assume the role of boyfriend/girlfriend or husband/wife.
Don't ignore why you broke up in the first place
It might be a fresh, new start, with fresh new promises; but if the issue that made you fall apart the last time is still niggling you at the back of your mind, rest assured it will be even harder making it work this time. If you're still holding onto issues from the past, work on resolving them through dialogue rather than moving right past them in an attempt to be the same happy couple you once were.
Do make sure you're both in this together
Getting back together shouldn't be a one-sided initiative. If one of you is keener than the other, it might already be a huge red flag. While getting back together, it is imperative to make sure that you're both in it together. You're both willing to give your time and make the effort to rebuild something from ground zero. If one of you is constantly making the effort and the other is not willing to change habits that might have caused the first breakup, it's only a matter of time before the two of you decide to part ways again.
Don't expect it to be easy
As much as you'd like it to be, this isn't going to the same as getting into a brand new relationship and starting completely afresh. The two of you will still have some baggage that will take some effort to work through and completely let go of. It isn't going to be easy, but if you're both willing to prioritise and put each other first, the outcome will be well worth it.
Do understand each others expectations
Why do the two of you want to get back together after a breakup? What do you seek from another round of a relationship that might have previously left you heartbroken? What do you aim to achieve this time around? Would you like each other to stop doing certain things and start doing others? Would you like this to end in long term commitment? Think about and understand the motives for wanting to be with the same person again.
Don't involve too many friends or family members for a while
Until the two of you have taken your time to resolve your issues on your own and come to a happy consensus on what is needed from each of you, avoid letting too many people into your relationship. While the need to share your emotions and feelings with your close people is natural, your relationship could benefit from the lack of outside opinion.
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