Relationships are difficult and there is no doubt about it. A relationship that looks happy and successful to the outside world, may have actually gone through a bumpy ride. Over the last few decades, it's become more and more common for couples to move in together while they're dating. It seems that whatever positive benefit comes from getting to know someone by way of living with them, it is outweighed by the danger of staying together because of only cooped up together rather than brilliant connection. To make a better-informed decision about your future with someone, below you'll find ways of turning over more rocks in your relationship - whether red flags or endearing qualities and gain a greater perspective as to who your partner really is.
This Is How What You Can Try To Do Without Moving In Together
1. Get Clear on Your Values and Expectations
Two people don't have to be clones of each other to make a good go. Conversations about your values, beliefs, and expectations for your future life together should begin fairly early in a relationship, obviously getting progressively deeper, better and more detailed as it becomes clearer that a future together is a realistic possibility. Realize there are a couple of limitations to these value-uncovering conversations, however.
2. Travel Together
Plotting out a significant trip takes some real effort and is a good chance to see how you work together as a team - if you're able to sacrifice and compromise and communicate. It will certainly often help you see how your significant other handle new people and places and deals with unexpected curveballs.
3. Interact In A Wide Variety Of Situations
To get to know someone to a greater extent, it's helpful to see how they personally handle the unexpected and the extent to which you are able to work through difficulties together. Thus, navigate new kinds of experiences and interact with different types of people. So don't just stick to a 'climate controlled' circuit of dating life; go camping, do a service project. Navigate new kinds of experiences and interact with different types of people.
4. Try Counseling
Taking a premarital course can help facilitate some key valuable discussions, identify potential issues and disagreements, and teach relationship-strengthening tools. Earnestly engaging in such a program can help facilitate the key value-disclosing discussions, identify potential issues and disagreements, and teach relationship-strengthening tools.
5. Interact With Your Peers
when two people start dating, they can often cordon themselves off into an isolated bubble. They then spend all their time one-on-one, only interacting with each other. But engaging exclusively will only elicit a relatively narrow range of behaviours, giving each partner a limited view of one another. This results in a limited purview of each other. Thus, observe how your partner interacts with each of your friends and family. How they treat them could give you an understanding of how you will be treated in a household setup.