The era of dating has seen an ultimate evolution, from online dating in the pandemic to finally IRL dating post that, we have kind of seen it all. No matter how many scenarios we have been through, the nervousness of a first date remains the same. There is always some error waiting to happen on the first date even if you are a seasoned dater. With our trusted tools, that can be easily avoided. Mistakes can be bypassed easily with our simple rulebook that won't just result in one successful date but many to follow.
First Date? Here's How Not To Mess It Up
1. Turning Up Late
Making your date wait on the first date might come across as being disrespectful to the other person's time. A total rookie move but one that can be easily taken care of. The first impression usually has a long-lasting effect, so make sure to have all the calculations of traffic and time yourself accordingly.
2. Have Bland Conversations
You are not here for an interview so it is best to not conduct one and keep your conversation creative and casual. Of course, you would want to know about the other person but start off casually, asking them about their interests and then you can lead that conversation further.
3. Not Having A Plan
If you have asked someone out, you should have a plan. Plan it out for your date and surprise them. Your partner definitely would not want to hear, "what are we doing next", especially on the first date. Have a plan B prepared too just in case the first one does not work out for some reason.
4. Ignoring Comfort
There are times when your date doesn't speak too much or engage in personal questions and that is often due to discomfort. This is your cue to make the atmosphere comfortable with your talks or gestures for the other person to ease out. Another important thing is to plan your first date at a comfortable and cosy place, you can keep the adventure for another date (hopefully).
5. Leave Your Phone
The first rule of the first date is to be genuinely interested in what the other person is talking about. Constantly looking at your phone or using it too much might send an uninterested tone and can have a negative impact on your date. If, however, you absolutely have to take a call, excuse yourself, attend the call and then return to your date.
6. Avoid Having Future Talk
It is just the first date, your partner doesn't need to know about all of it at once. It is better to take baby steps and focus on what's happening in the present. Talks of marriage and the future should never ever be brought up on the first date.
7. Ending The Date Abruptly
Most important of all, it is so essential how to bid goodbye to your partner after the first date. The ending of a date is as important as the whole date. Do not try to escalate things to a new level on the first date if the other person doesn't seem interested and instead, make sure you give them a warm and nice goodbye before they leave so you can hopefully meet again.
8. Don't Talk About Your Ex
It is just a turn off! Talking about your ex on the first date can radiate a negative vibe. Discussing your exes on the first date isn't the best thing to do, so it best to keep this topic for later.