Whether you've been sexually active for years or you're exploring your sexuality for the first time in your life, questions abound and that's regardless of how old or how experienced you are. While the internet can provide answers, when it comes to sexual health and wellness, no responses are as trustworthy and credible as those from an expert. Myths are in plenty so they do require a fair bit of qualified digging to find the facts. Which is why I spoke to Kanusha YK to answer some of those common queries we're certain we've asked ourselves at some point or another.
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How Much Sex Is Too Much Sex?
If you are sexually active and frequently indulge in sex, you may have wondered, how much sex is too much and are there repercussions of the same? The frequency of sex is variable and personal to one's preferences. However, the most important factor is to understand and communicate your sexual desires and needs to your partner. The number of times a person has sex a month varies from person to person.
Is Too Much Sex Bad For Your Body?
An individual can go on as long as you like and as long as you and your partner are listening to your bodies and not experiencing any adverse effects like pain, discomfort, chafing or irritation. Since there is no quantitative scale to assess yourself, it is crucial to observe the signs of warning that your body gives you to understand what "too much" may mean for you.
What Are Physical Symptoms That You're Having Too Much Sex?
The first and most obvious indicators are physical signs like soreness, rug burns, and muscle strain, low or absent lubrication and UTIs. Not being able to have an erection or having a weak erection could be another physical symptom which indicates a sign of a physical and psychological exhaustion.
What Are Psychological Symptoms That You're Having Too Much Sex?
Some of the psychological signs could include hypersexuality or sex addiction, which can lead to loss of control. This is where an individual is always preoccupied with sex and shows signs of risky behaviour like watching porn at work or participating in illegal sexual practices. Addictive behaviour could be recognised if one continues to repeat the patterns despite facing negative consequences and unpleasant emotions like guilt or shame. On the other side, one could also feel bored and find sex monotonous which could lead to irritation or sexual aversion.
How Does One Understand When Their Body Is Sending Them Signals To Slow Down?
It is important to keep a track of any escalating signs of sexual activity that may make you feel uncomfortable and pull back and slow down. Indicators like wanting sexually explicit pictures, seeking dangerous sexual activities etc., could show signs of hypersexuality. It is important to recognise these signs and set boundaries with what you look at, explore and practice. As there is no official diagnosis for hypersexuality, it is important to use your own judgement to figure out whether you are having too much sex and if there is a need to get professional help. It is essential to turn 'inward' to understand what counts as 'too much' for you and address where that feeling is coming from.
Apart from the physical and psychological indicators it is also important to be mindful of external factors such as the use of intoxicants like drugs and alcohol, porn addiction, etc. One must always prioritize one's partner's consent for a healthy sexual and emotional relationship. It is important to address problematic sexual behaviour and attempt to resolve it with education, counselling, and experience. To summarise, too much sex comes down to your individual wants, needs, obligations and body.
Kanusha YK is a Psychotherapist and relationship expert at Allo Health
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